Why Gambling Can Destroy Your Marriage

In any marriage, you face some hurdles along the way. However, some barriers become big obstacles, and they even tend to get in the way of your marriage. Gambling, for example, has been one of the leading causes of marital problems. 

“Couples often feel that they know and understand their partner, and are compatible on most issues. However, this is a mistake.” –Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC

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In fact, gambling increases the likelihood of divorces, because it makes the person who gambles a financial burden. At the same time, partners who gamble may tend to deceive their other half as well as their family, at the expense of getting additional money for their gambling addiction. 

“Compulsive gambling is a serious addiction that can cause severe consequences.” Natalia S. David, PsyD explains. Because of this, the family’s financial status worsens, which forces the other half to carry all the burden by himself or herself. However, how can you control the occasional gambling? Moreover, when would you know that it is already destroying you and your marriage? 

When Is Gambling An Addiction? 

Gambling is any betting or staking that have either zero or high gains. A gambler is conscious that the outcomes may not be in his or her favor. However, he or she still hopes to gain something in the end. Gambling also comes in different forms, such as horse racing, poker, slot machines, and even lottery. However, some types of gambling are riskier than others because some of them face the issue of legality in most countries. 

To know if you are already experiencing gambling addiction, you may notice that you find it hard to resist your impulse in quitting a new round of the game. You get excited every time you gamble, and you anticipate that you can win back everything you lost if you join the next game. However, this can lead to a series of unfortunate decisions, like getting bad loans, using assets as collateral, and so much more. 

How To Stop Gambling Before It Ruins Your Marriage 

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Quitting any addiction is a hard thing to face, and gambling is no different from that. You may find yourself relapsing at some point, but stopping is not as impossible as you think. For any addiction, the first thing that you can do is to decide that you want to stop for good. It is not only for the sake of your marriage but also for your welfare. 

The next step is to undergo therapies with your doctor. Make sure that you include your partner in the sessions, as they can provide the support that you would need at this time. As for the partner without the gambling problems, it is best to give support to your partner since this time will be a critical period of their recovery. 

“Online care is not for every patient or practitioner. Clients with more serious mental illnesses or addictions likely need more treatment than digital therapy can provide. And some clinicians may find certain telehealth modalities difficult,” –Nina Barlevy, PsyD.

It may mean extending a little more of your patience, understanding, and love for them. Spend more time with them, and make sure that you go with them in their therapy sessions. It will not just help your partner finally quit their gambling addiction, but as well as improve your overall relationship with them. It can renew the trust once broken, and even rekindle the flames of your love for them. 

Gambling: Origin and Types

 

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Every activity must have started somehow and somewhere and this is applicable to gambling as well. While various studies and research into the past have shown that gambling started as early as life itself, it is hard to pinpoint the very first time it occurred. It was also recorded that they could go to places to gamble far back as it ever began and while this went on, it allowed strangers to chat and it improved communication skills; though those places were also known to have reckless activities going on and a bad reputation.

The origin of gambling can be traced back to the Greek mythology in the division of the Universe; Zeus, Hades, and Poseidon did this by playing “Throw the dice”. Particularly, the use of dice can be dated back to around 40,000 years and dice games have been in existence since then. Being able to throw a double six in a dice game might seem lucky but it was called the “Throw of Aphrodite” and it usually marked the end of the game and signified victory.

Locations and Origination

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China: Going back as far as 2300bc, the Chinese have always been known to be very interested in gambling and this they did by using tiles in a game of chance. It was also reported that funds gotten from the lottery were used for some projects including building the Great Wall of China and this has continued up to this moment even in other parts of the world.

Greece and Rome: Apart from the myth describing the creation of the Universe, Greeks were also known to find playing a game of dice fascinating. At about 500bc, a Greek poet made mention of the occurrence and the use of dice; this went on and became popular amongst Greeks and they turned out to gamble on almost anything that came their way.

Italy and France: A particular game that did exist long ago as far back as the 1400s is a two-player game of Baccarat. It became obvious when the game migrated from Italy to France and up to date, the game has taken up various forms and versions and is still very much played and loved in casinos.

Other places around the world also had stints of gambling’s origination; and it can be said that whatever initiated it, must have been a result of the zeal to try out something new.

Types of Gambling

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There are various ways and forms of gambling and some are more popular than the other and while these types have their varying odds and similitude in their chances of winning; some others are different. Below are some types of gambling:

  1. Casino gambling: This is very much the most popular type of gambling as it makes up part of the revenue of China. It has even been made legal in some countries but then it doesn’t come without debate and objections as some people feel it is harmful while others see it as being a harmless setting; offering good activities. In the casino, various games can be played and it comes with its own rules. We have:

Card games: They can be any of these and more; Blackjack, Poker, Baccarat, Spades, Hearts, and casino war. Most times, players play against the house.

Dice games: The end result is decided by the outcome of throwing the dice which might appear as luck.

Gambling machines: Slot machines have their outcome decided once the player hits the spin button.

  • Sports betting: Another type of gambling that has also settled very well is sports betting. While it generates a lot of money as recorded by the American Gaming Association, it also turns in illegal funds even more than the legal funds. Any sport can be gambled on and as long as people are following a type of sport, then some people will be betting on it. It has various forms though and playing instructions such as; Moneyline, In-play betting, second-half bets, head-to-head, teasers and a whole lot more.
  • Lottery: There are two major forms:

Scratch-Offs: The customer will purchase a card and then scratch off some covered spaces to reveal the symbols underneath. If they are able to have a considerable number of matches or uncover a specific symbol, they win a particular amount or they lose if they don’t meet the requirement.

Drawings: This one requires a player to select a series of numbers at random from a given set of integers. After the deadline for the procurement of tickets, a drawing is made and the numbers that win are announced. The player can win based on the number of right picks but it’s always more if he/she picks all the numbers correctly.

Other types of gambling are Poker, Bingo, Mahjong, Raffle tickets.

Gambling is truly as old as life itself and has developed to be a business, a lifestyle and a form of cooling off steam for people. The future does hold a lot more for gambling and there’s surely more to come in the types of gambling as to the ones we have now.

Alarming Signs That Your Partner Has Developed Serious Gambling Addiction

Do you have any idea if your partner has ever been to a casino? Or maybe your significant other has already tried playing those online gambling apps even once? Don’t underestimate the addictive nature of this game of chances. 

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Gambling addiction can destroy not just your partner but also you and your relationship. Read on and check if the following are the signs you have been noticing lately. 

“Gambling Disorder is characterized by a pattern of compulsive gambling that becomes problematic and leads to the experience of negative consequences in an individual’s life.” –Hailey Shafir, LPCS, LCAS, CCS-I

Your Partner Avoids Talking About Money 

In short, your partner is becoming﷟HYPERLINK “https://www.elementsbehavioralhealth.com/behavioral-process-addictions/confirming-your-suspicions-how-to-know-for-sure-if-your-spouse-has-a-gambling-problem/amp/”secretive about where he spends the money. If both of you talked about the sharing of bills, the chances are high that your partner is a problem gambler if he or she has missed more than a month of bill shares. 

Furthermore, a sudden change in the cash flow and mood of your significant other at times can confirm your suspicion. A little bit of investigation may not hurt. Take notice of the credit card bills piling up in the mailbox. 

Your Partner Has Been Borrowing Large Amounts Of Money From You Frequently 

It is possible that your money is being used﷟HYPERLINK “http://nyproblemgambling.org/resources/warning-signs/”to fund your partner’s gambling addiction without you knowing. Be wary if he or she promises you a bigger return without being told explicitly where this considerably huge sum would be used and how this ‘larger return’ would happen. It’s okay to give your partner the benefit of the doubt at first, but a second and succeeding borrowing is already too much and should say something. 

“Sometimes problem gamblers spend the money that should go to food or rent or heat on their habit and spend more time on gambling than with the kids and spouse who need them.” –Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., a licensed psychologist and marriage and family counselor.

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 Certain Things Around The House Have Been Disappearing Lately 

Things with high value in particular mysteriously go missing. It can be alarming as material investments, either by your partner or by both of you, can be at risk of being sold off just to satisfy gambling compulsions and cover all the lost funds from this addiction. 

Frequent Mood Shifts 

Change in mood and behavior is inevitable when it comes to gambling. Your partner undeniably looks too upset, uncomfortable, and irritable without apparent reason as soon as he gets home. More often than not, the question of how his day went will also be ignored. 

Notice your partner’s personality shifting from being cheerful and high-spirited to depressed and frustrated. It can affect habits and patterns in sleeping, eating, and even your sexual relationship. 

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 Obligations Are Being Ignored And Neglected 

Intense cravings to gamble can make your partner disregard responsibilities at home and work. Canceled date nights and noticeably lesser time together maybe because your partner is ‘chasing losses.’ Your partner begins to lose track of time so he can gamble until all the lost money (from gambling as well) is recovered. 

“A person who is a compulsive gambler can recover with treatment, but it’s hard sometimes for a person struggling with compulsive gambling to realize they need help.” –Natalia S. David, PsyD

If your suspicions all come out to be true, then the best thing for you to do is encourage your partner to try therapy as soon as he is ready. Allow your significant other to open up as reasons for this gambling addiction may stem from underlying problems. Gambling can mask these real personal issues. Your relationship doesn’t need to end as there is a lot of available professional help for your partner and your romance. 

Gambling Addiction

 

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One of the grave dangers of gambling is that one can easily get addicted to it and since addiction is not something that comes overnight, it can become very difficult to quit gambling. It starts from that first step to try it out so that the person can get the fun out of it or to increase their income or just to test their skills. While these go on, there’s a constant zeal to want to get better, to try out something new or to place a higher bet and this constantly drives the person to a very deep end that backing out becomes unlikely and unthinkable.

Hailey Shafir, LPCS, LCAS, CCS-I  explains that “Addiction is a non-medical term that refers to a wide range of mental disorders called Substance Use Disorders. There are a variety of different types of Substance Use Disorders, including Alcohol Use Disorder, Stimulant Use Disorder, and Cannabis Use Disorder, just to name a few.” While there have been efforts made to ease the hearts of people addicted to gambling and help them overcome it, like a depression chat room where they tell their stories and are encouraged to fight the pressure, these efforts have sometimes remained ineffective.

According to REHAB INTERNATIONAL, there is a treatment for gambling addiction which can also be called problem gambling and “Based on recent research, there are currently 2.5 million Americans who have a gambling addiction and an additional three million are considered to be problem gamblers.” (Rehab-international.org)

Symptoms

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  • There will be an excessive craving for gaming/gambling.
  • Reluctance to get involved with other things.
  • Uncontrolled anxiety towards gambling.
  • Going into unnecessary debts just to gamble.
  • Loss of sleep can result in a migraine or depression.
  • Lesser family time.
  • Frequent visits to gaming centres/casinos.

And a whole lot more.

These symptoms are what can be seen before someone gets addicted or while they are yet to become very much addicted. It can be a result of personality disorders or a problem with drugs and alcohol and there will be a need to test new waters. There is a tolerance level that comes beforehand, it eases them into going on and then they want more, the drive for more leads them into getting addicted.

Forms of gambling

While the form or type depends on the country, the very common one is the casino. Someone can spend a large chunk of time there just trying to have fun or make more money. Often times than not, they end up losing a lot and still put in more just to sight a win.

Sports betting is also very popular and almost all the sports if not all have a betting activity, horse racing is very popular and it really does eat deep into finances and can even result in suicidal attempts.

Dangers of gambling addiction

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Just like the dangers associated with gambling, dangers associated with gambling addictions are like a step further and almost the same. “If people were able to say ‘I am a problem gambler’ in the same way that they say ‘I am an alcoholic’ then it would protect them.” A psychiatrist Dr. Henrietta Bowden-Jones once said.

  • Family woes: A family that has a gambler will also have reasons to not agree and argue. This is because of the effect that gambling has on one’s personality, it’s either he or she becomes so far from the home and forgets the family or the excessive need to spend money on betting which can ruin the family and leave them penniless. Even the children will also be a receiver of the problem leaving them to take or make wrong decisions too.
  • Alcohol and drugs: While this might have been there before, it could also arise as a result of addiction. There might be a need to want to ease depression and just wade off worries and then they end up becoming drug and alcohol addicts which worsen the case.
  • Deformed lifestyle: While the person could have been truthful and sincere, he or she will resort to lying and deceit just to have their way and get what they want or escape queries till another time. So, there’s a continuous thread of lies and insincerity. The person might also lose his or her job and then get put off from the world or just go so far into having an anxiety disorder as a result of excessive anxiety.
  •  Economic effects: A lot of money is lost to gambling daily and yearly which affects the economy. Unemployment increases as people lose their jobs because of fraudulent activities and they can even go bankrupt and result in stealing. They can sell off their properties and all these will have a great effect on the economic life of the gambler and even the nation.

Treatment of gambling

  • As I mentioned earlier that chat rooms or groups have been set up to get addicts to open up and fight the addiction, it might not be fully effective but it’s a great step towards total recovery.
  • There are medications also to help ease the pain or symptoms and get them back in shape. Therapy can also be done to adjust their behavior and their reasoning.

“Addiction psychology is only a primary focus. Psychodynamic and cognitive behavioral approaches, mindfulness and evidence based practices. Trusting that clients know how to steer the direction for what should be discussed in therapy.” –Jeremy Frank PhD CADC

It’s not a totally bad case as it can be treated but the best thing is to not start than to start looking for solutions after losing a lot to it already. So, there’s a need to sensitize someone and also to proffer help to those in need of it because as much as gambling will not make the body swell or result in any physical injury, it can easily take someone’s life after battling with the addiction for long.

Elderly People And Why They Gamble

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What makes gambling so addictive?” “How come most people I know that are into gambling are of old age?” These are just some of the few questions that a non-gambling person might ask. Who can blame him/her? The curious person has little to no experience at all with gambling and no exposure to the environment of the casino world, where gambling most often takes place. 

It is not shocking to find people of old age at the casinos or involving themselves in gambling. Go to a casino. More often than not, you’ll see that the slot machines are lined up with older adults. Perhaps, because it is an easy and exciting way of winning cash? Or there’s not much thinking involved? These may be the popular opinions as to why elderly people partake in gambling. But in truth, the reason behind it is that old age is linked to loss of self-control, which can cause them to get addicted easily to gambling. 

Scientific evidence 

A natural component of aging is the shrinking of the size of the brain’s frontal lobes. A more specific term for this process of shrinking is called atrophy. In this process, the tissues of the frontal lobes in the brain begin to waste away on their own. This leads to a great reduction of executive functioning, which is the brain’s capacity to influence one’s behavior. Less executive functioning means less self-control. This will eventually lead the brain to have a significantly harder time to tell a person when enough is enough. As Natalia S. David, PsyD. says, “Not everyone who gambles has a problem with it. It is important to determine whether or not the other person has an addiction.”

This is the reason why elderly people cannot cease their unhealthy habits of gambling. It might not be so much that they are addicted to gambling and that they do it because they genuinely enjoy the act of gambling. It may be because they have little self-control and can’t stop, even if the gambling costs them. 

Progressive effects of lack of self-control 

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What happens to these older adults who find themselves getting addicted to gambling, but almost always end up losing? This can result in many possible things. One of these is anger issues. That is because “The challenge with anger is finding a way to express it in a way that doesn’t make others want to shut down or become defensive or scared.” John M. Grohol, Psy.D.  said.

All of us know the stereotype of elderly people. People usually think of them as grumpy, impatient or reclusive. This image of these people is portrayed in many famous films, wherein the grandparents lose their patience towards their grandchildren, for example. Can this stereotype be applied to the elderly people who gamble? Possibly. 

Going back to what was mentioned earlier, elderly people who actively participate in gambling have little self-control, a trait that comes with old age. Loss of self-control can lead to anger issues such as aggression, frustration or vexation dealt by a loss at the casino. But what can they expect? One does not easily win at gambling. A day at the casino will more likely lead to a loss in cash rather than a profit. With that being said, an elderly person who has severe trouble with self-control is highly at risk of losing his/her temper. 

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“The first step was to understand that our goal was to mainstream addiction treatment into the general delivery of health care.” Navdeep Kang, PsyD explains. So to sum up, self-control is not the only thing that elderly people lose when it comes to aging and gambling. It is also money and a cool head that is lost after gambling. 

5 Negative Effects Of Gambling On Your Relationships

After winning yet another game, you feel happy. You collect your winnings. Then, you decide to try your luck again and spend it in another round. 

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This time, you lose. You’re calling your wife, but she’s not answering. She’s frustrated that you’re still out at this hour. Your friends? They already left you because you lost. You start to feel lonely and isolated. 

Just like any addiction, you realize that ﷟HYPERLINK “http://www.gamblingcommission.gov.uk/for-the-public/What-is-gambling.aspx” gambling has adverse effects not only to yourself but for everyone around you. 

  1. Mistrust/ Loss Of Trust 

Gambling addicts consciously or unconsciously hide behind lies and deceit to get their fix. For example, some makeup excuses just to get to their favorite casino. While other people take it extremes, such as stating fake illnesses in the family just to gather capital for their gambling. 

Constant lying and deceit can lead to loss of trust. Eventually, these lies end up putting a strain on relationships. This strain does not occur within the family; it can even extend to friends and colleagues.  But note, “If you have had significant issues around trust, safety, or stability in relationships previously, I think it’s important for people to have other sources of support outside of their partner(s). This support can come in various forms such as friends, family members, clergy, and even a therapist.” says Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC.

2. Financial Loss 

Addiction to gambling also means less financial support available for the family. Gambling addicts are usually the breadwinners. More often than not, these gambling addicts use up their limited budget to gamble. These funds are supposedly allotted for food or other expenses within the home.  Elizabeth Scott, MS, a wellness coach says  “Learning to cope with financial stress and effectively manage your financial situation can help you feel more in control of your life, reduce your stress, and build a more secure future.”

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 3. Breakdown Of Family Relations 

Resentment from other family members ensues because of the limited time spent on bonding with the family. First, the spouse feels neglected. Most of the duties inside the home are now a burden of the other spouse. Less income available also translates to increased economic responsibility for the spouse, leading to more resentment. 

The children also feel resentment towards the gambler because they don’t feel the needed love and support. Heated conflicts between spouses due to finances can also lead the children to become depressed and isolated. 

4. Possible Influence On Children 

Parents are supposedly the first examples for their children. These children’s worldview takes after their parents and relatives. So if the children see one of their parents addicted to gambling, they may ﷟HYPERLINK “https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5316223/”take after them. 

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Gamblers should worry that they may be setting up a bad example for their children. If their children experience the same problems with gambling in their future, they are only the ones to blame. 

5. Limited Social Circles 

There is the saying that the “birds of the same feather, flock together.” And gamblers are the ones who often stay together. Gamblers are awake at odd hours; they are awake at night and usually asleep during the day. 

Having an odd sleeping pattern thus limits the people gamblers interact with. 

Having mentioned these negative effects, what should you do to get on the right track? 

First off, you should consult a medical expert. Often, when you are too engrossed in your gambling activities, you become unaware that you are hooked on it already. 

A medical expert, specifically a psychiatrist, will be able to diagnose your condition and advise healthy coping mechanisms. 

Neglecting your symptoms can lead to even more disastrous outcomes for your relationships. Decide to take action to start the path to recovery. 

Mental Health Effects Of Gambling

 

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Gambling has various effects, one of which is on the mental health of the gambler. While it is necessary to know these effects, it is also of utmost importance to know about mental health.

Mental health

According to Erica Thompson, LMFT, LPCC “Mental health struggles are real. They can be painful. You may feel alone. In some of the darkest times, you may feel like something is “wrong” with you to the core.”Mental health is a level of psychological and emotional well-being; it is the state of mind we are in, the way we think, act and even how we feel. It is a very important thing to take note of, and we must be conscious of it at every stage of our life; right from when we are young even up till old age. Having someone to talk to is also very important as it helps to study the state of our mind and it improves our mental health.

While gambling can be addictive and also influencing our mental health; it can be rewarding and risky. It has always been a ticket to end boredom for some people and it makes them feel they are very strong but it can cause anxiety and depression when it becomes addictive. As we take a look at the mental health effects of gambling, we’ll consider its positive side and the risk attached to it too.

The positive effect of gambling on mental health

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While it is very risky to one’s mental health, gambling sure does open up a challenge to a gambler’s mental health.

Extensive studies have shown that while people retire and do little or no work like fishing or just resting, those that engage in activities requiring heavy thoughts tend to make effective use of their brain. Those that retire and just stay at home will later have some parts of their brain idle while those that gamble will still make effective use of those parts that might have become idle. Though it is not only gambling that requires heavy thoughts it is worthy of note that gambling does require consistent heavy thought.

As the brain is the center of most of the impulses and reactions, it is also the source of the strength attached to mental health. As long as the brain is in good condition, then mental health is also in the right condition. So, gambling is not all that bad and it does have its positive influence.

It is, therefore, necessary to note, that it is this consistent gambling that might turn out to be an addiction and will lead to the negative side effects. When there’s a feeling of comfort; the addictive pain then comes up and then there’s no letting go. So, what happens to mental health when gambling becomes an addiction?

Negative effects of gambling on mental health

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The major effect that rocks the boat of gambling is the effect it has on the mental health of the gambler. While it starts gradually and looks like it’s really nothing, it becomes a thorn in the flesh and harms the gambler constantly.  Let’s take a look at some of the consistent negative effects. “If your gambling addiction has led to severe social, medical, legal and/or financial difficulties, you may need to find an inpatient program to give a jumpstart to your treatment,” says Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., a licensed psychologist and marriage and family counselor.

  • Depression and anxiety: They are often experienced together because when there’s an expectation as the dice are rolling, it leads t anxiety and then there’s a force of depression that settles in gradually especially when the gambler doesn’t win. Over time, the gambler gets used to it while also beating the mental health of the gambler down.
  • Bipolar disorder: It is also called “manic depression”. It is a mental health disorder that results in periods of elevated mood (hypomania) and periods of depression. It is characterized by these two separate moods; the person feels energetic and is able to tackle or face any situation though he/she might give a poor judgment, then it comes with a feeling of depression and the person feels cut out from the world and behaves seemingly opposite to the way he/she once felt.
  • Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): Another negative mental health issue is this disorder that results in not being able to be attentive, being excessively active and having difficulty controlling one’s behavior. It is a rampant disorder that can occur during childhood and can be prevalent in a lifetime but it can also be treated. It also duly affects gamblers after continuous moments with gambling.

It is always nice to look at the bright side of things but it’s even better to consider the flaws and side effects. Though, gambling might have its good side; it is a really terrible activity to get used to. There’s a need to gamble with caution if you are ever going to gamble and there’s a need to watch the signs of addiction or mental health issues as it starts so little and becomes an unquenchable fire. Lillian Harris LCPC-C used to say, “So much of mental health work is about giving people a space to be witnessed and held while sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly of human life.” And she is right.

Dangers Of Gambling

 

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Despite the high level of uncertainty, gambling is very much evident and a lot of people still take an active part in it. From the young to the old, no one is left out of the adventure of gambling. People often get to spend all that they have with the hope of hitting the jackpot on a lucky day.

Present Trend

Gambling has taken an amusing trend with the availability of online sports betting. People can now predict the outcomes of various sports matches on their mobile phones with the hope of earning more than they have invested. Gambling is a very addictive act and can be quite difficult to control or stop. Many gamblers often need the assistance of a therapist to break the gambling addiction.

To make it more fascinating, popular faces and brands are used as ambassadors and sponsors to get more people to be interested in it and while gambling is likely to pay, it is also likely to not pay. But for the zeal to just play and win a massive amount compared to the amount of bet placed, a lot of people join this risky adventure knowing that winning is by chance.

Winning is by chance

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No one has accurate details about the certainty of an uncertain issue and so no gambler knows the precise result of a game but they make an assumption that can either be true or false. They make their bets based on their expected earnings then gladly and anxiously await the result of the game or the number on the die.

It might not even yield a positive result the first time, so another trial is imminent and this continues until a slight victory is recorded but a lot of resources will be dumped for a slight victory and only in few instances do winnings come big.

So, what happens when there is no win? Let’s take a look at the dangers of gambling.

Associated Dangers

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As much as there can be positive sides to gambling, it is necessary to be aware of the dangers that are associated with gambling.

  1. Loss of money: This is the major danger of gambling, it is as simple as if you don’t win a bet or gamble; your money is gone. Even with this consciousness, a lot of people are not bothered but it is expedient that this danger is considered before gambling as there will be no refund.
  • Addiction: This is one of the very grave dangers of gambling as a trial can convince a person and then trap the person into not letting go, till it gets to the point of a daily routine and a lifetime activity. “A person who is a compulsive gambler can recover with treatment, but it’s hard sometimes for a person struggling with compulsive gambling to realize they need help,” says Natalia S. David, PsyD. Apart from the fact that a person can spend all of his or her money before the day ends on gambling, it has health problems attached too. It can affect the person psychologically and this will result in the person having to receive treatment. 
  • Debts: Gambling can also make a person go deep down into an ocean of debts as there will be a need to get money to gamble even when there isn’t enough again and there will be a need to borrow from others to pay debts because the gamble or bet did not pay. “Sometimes problem gamblers spend the money that should go to food or rent or heat on their habit and spend more time on gambling than with the kids and spouse who need them.” says Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., a licensed psychologist and marriage and family counselor.
  • Family woes: When there’s a need to spend money on something important, the husband or wife that gambles will impede that and it will result in arguments that can break up a home. The children can also be on the receiving end of the issue as they can be left in the car while their parents gamble at a casino and these will make the child feel forgotten as they won’t have enough time with their parents anymore.  “Because gambling is known to trigger these addiction pathways, it is often considered to be a behavioral addiction – or behavior that can become compulsive over time, causing a lot of harm to people’s lives.” Hailey Shafir, LPCS, LCAS, CCS-I adds.
  • Depression: A lot of things are associated with getting depressed; it could be as a result of losing self-esteem after a losing streak or the feeling of not having enough time to spend with family and attend events because more time will be spent gambling than with the social world. There’s this anxiety that grips gamblers and it’s always there, so when there’s a poor result; there’s a great form of depression.

It is always hard to stop gambling when a very long period has been placed on it. Though some people still get to win and they win big but others are not lucky and it results in terrible things. So, before you take a step towards gambling, take time to also know the dangers because it comes with side effects and you might have been drenched in its guilt before you even realize your existence.

Physical Health Effects Of Gambling

 

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The issues related to gambling and gambling in itself is a global phenomenon that is constantly increasing in terms of the number of new people who become hooked on it. The level of accessibility to gambling activities is at an all-time high so there is a great need for the government and private stakeholders responsible for its continuous growth to ensure that there are adequate orientation and awareness of the risks and dangers involved in it.

“Just like our feelings give us information about our needs, so do our bodies through physiological feedback,” –Eliza Chamblin, LCSW

Those actively involved in providing and allowing (especially the government) gambling services need to ensure that when their clients unavoidably become hooked or addicted to gambling that it is adequate up to date research, treatment facility and so on. Ultimately, the onus is on the government to ensure that its citizens are aware of the dangers of gambling so that they are able to make informed decisions and prevent themselves from getting addicted to gambling.

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The problems associated or caused directly by gambling addiction can be very adverse and may have long-lasting effects on the family, relationships, finance, work and even the society at large. Though, a psychiatrist Dr. Henrietta Bowden-Jones wants to be specific when she said, “Families suffer terribly from gambling. They lose homes, the kids become depressed. This is not the worst case by any means.”

Research has shown that gambling is associated with a number of physical, mental and emotional health issues. Some of the physical issues linked with gambling include muscular tension, insomnia, colitis, high blood pressure, fatigue, heart disease, migraines, stomach ailments, and skin problems. Some of the mental problems include obsessive-compulsive disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity, depression, manic and clinical depression and a decline in self-worth. It should be noted that most gamblers are likely to result in smoking and drinking habits which create other health problems.

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Heart Disease: Gambling pre-exposes you to a wide range of heart conditions which include blood vessel diseases like the coronary artery disease and also heart rhythm problems (arrhythmias). Due to the high pressure that comes with gambling, the risks of the blood vessels constricting or getting blocked increases greatly, chest pains, stroke, and heart attack can also occur.

High Blood Pressure: Hypertension is one of the most likely consequences of gambling. When the body is always anxious and stressed trying to figure out the outcomes and the looking forward to a favorable one even though most times it turns out to be the opposite.

Muscular Tension: This is common for gamblers and those who place their valuables on the outcome of specific events. This tension is produced as a result of the cross-bridges formed between the actin and the myosin filaments in each muscle fiber of the body, the resultant force acts on the bones through the tendons and connective tissues causing external tension.

Insomnia: The inability to sleep which is very crucial to the body can be an effect of compulsive gambling. Staying up all night can seriously affect your physical wellbeing making you fatigued and drowsy. The consequence of chronic insomnia can be very adverse as it will lead to diabetes, stroke, heart disease, high blood pressure and so on. Witht that, Staci Lee Schnell, MS, CS, LMFT emphasizes that “Patients who experience continued insomnia are less likely to respond to medication and psychotherapy treatment than those without sleep problems.”

Consistent Gambling simply increases the risk of hypertension by ensuring that your blood pressure is over the healthy limit which can lead to heart diseases, kidney diseases, and even stroke.

Migraines: Gambling requires that you are always playing the odds in your head even before you place your bets. Recurrent headaches are one of those health issues gamblers have to deal with. It is usually characterized by a sharp, throbbing pain on one or both sides of the head which can be disabling.

Fatigue: The feeling of exhaustion, lack of energy and lack of motivation is quite common among gamblers.

Colitis: the inflammation of the inner lining of the colon commonly called colitis is another physical health issue that can be triggered by excessive gambling. 

The Unfortunate Things That Happened Due To Gambling Addiction

Honestly, it was not easy to admit that I have a mental health problem. I did not even consider looking at myself as an addict because I believe that the things I do are in control. I understand that there are consequences for what I do. But I never came to realize that I could lose everything in an instant. I firmly believed that my enthusiast for gambling is somehow comparable to a hobby. Little did I know it was entirely the opposite of what I thought it used to be.

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It Fast-Forwarded Time

As I got stuck in the mentality of “living life to the fullest,” I intended to spend all my time into gambling leisure. I thought I was getting an exemption by wasting my time because of the idea that I need to be happy doing things that I enjoyed the most. With that type of perception, I never entirely care about anything else aside from the momentary enjoyment and thrill I experienced with gambling. But then, the realization hit me so hard that it was already too late to realize that I lost a lot of time in different casinos. With that, the last thing I know is that I am now old and broke. Therefore, I realized Karla Helbert, LPC, E-RYT, C-IAYT when she says, “Putting things in perspective and treating yourself with love and compassion can be such a gift.”

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It Destroyed My Marital Relationship

Yes, it was fun gambling with friends. I honestly enjoyed spending moments together with the people who supported my gambling addiction. For me, it was a perfect life. However, I was too focused on the particular habit that I ignored essential people in my life. I lost communication with my wife. I never knew I was slowly pushing my family away from me. I was not aware that I am putting myself in a box and shutting down the only person who honestly wants to save me from the psychological condition I experienced. I ruined my marriage. Now I guess psychiatrist Dr. Henrietta Bowden-Jones was right after all when she said, “Families suffer terribly from gambling. They lose homes, the kids become depressed. This is not the worst case by any means.”

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It Made Me Hate Myself

Again, I was too focused on giving myself the life I have always dreamed of, regardless of the consequences that I knew could happen. Honestly, I somehow understood that gambling would soon take me into my doom. But then, I chose not to pay much attention to that. But after I lost a lot of money, time, and energy, I began to hate myself. I hated myself for not winning consistently, and I hated myself for not being able to control the mental condition.

How It Changed My Life

My gambling addiction became worse over time. It ended up destroying my fortune, my relationships with people, as well as my overall health. It became something I valued more than anything else. As a result, it took everything away from me. Yes, this may seem a bit exaggerated, but it is the truth. I now do not have a stable financial income, I do not have someone to support me, and I do not know if the time left if enough to make me change things. Gambling is not and never will become comparable to a hobby like what I used to believe in. It is a mental condition. So if you are in the least same situation as mine, consider asking for professional help immediately. “Not everyone who gambles has a problem with it. It is important to determine whether or not the other person has an addiction,” says Natalia S. David, PsyD.