After winning yet another game, you feel happy. You collect your winnings. Then, you decide to try your luck again and spend it in another round.
This time, you lose. You’re calling your wife, but she’s not answering. She’s frustrated that you’re still out at this hour. Your friends? They already left you because you lost. You start to feel lonely and isolated.
Just like any addiction, you realize that HYPERLINK “http://www.gamblingcommission.gov.uk/for-the-public/What-is-gambling.aspx” gambling has adverse effects not only to yourself but for everyone around you.
- Mistrust/ Loss Of Trust
Gambling addicts consciously or unconsciously hide behind lies and deceit to get their fix. For example, some makeup excuses just to get to their favorite casino. While other people take it extremes, such as stating fake illnesses in the family just to gather capital for their gambling.
Constant lying and deceit can lead to loss of trust. Eventually, these lies end up putting a strain on relationships. This strain does not occur within the family; it can even extend to friends and colleagues. But note, “If you have had significant issues around trust, safety, or stability in relationships previously, I think it’s important for people to have other sources of support outside of their partner(s). This support can come in various forms such as friends, family members, clergy, and even a therapist.” says Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC.
2. Financial Loss
Addiction to gambling also means less financial support available for the family. Gambling addicts are usually the breadwinners. More often than not, these gambling addicts use up their limited budget to gamble. These funds are supposedly allotted for food or other expenses within the home. Elizabeth Scott, MS, a wellness coach says “Learning to cope with financial stress and effectively manage your financial situation can help you feel more in control of your life, reduce your stress, and build a more secure future.”
3. Breakdown Of Family Relations
Resentment from other family members ensues because of the limited time spent on bonding with the family. First, the spouse feels neglected. Most of the duties inside the home are now a burden of the other spouse. Less income available also translates to increased economic responsibility for the spouse, leading to more resentment.
The children also feel resentment towards the gambler because they don’t feel the needed love and support. Heated conflicts between spouses due to finances can also lead the children to become depressed and isolated.
4. Possible Influence On Children
Parents are supposedly the first examples for their children. These children’s worldview takes after their parents and relatives. So if the children see one of their parents addicted to gambling, they may HYPERLINK “https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5316223/”take after them.
Gamblers should worry that they may be setting up a bad example for their children. If their children experience the same problems with gambling in their future, they are only the ones to blame.
5. Limited Social Circles
There is the saying that the “birds of the same feather, flock together.” And gamblers are the ones who often stay together. Gamblers are awake at odd hours; they are awake at night and usually asleep during the day.
Having an odd sleeping pattern thus limits the people gamblers interact with.
Having mentioned these negative effects, what should you do to get on the right track?
First off, you should consult a medical expert. Often, when you are too engrossed in your gambling activities, you become unaware that you are hooked on it already.
A medical expert, specifically a psychiatrist, will be able to diagnose your condition and advise healthy coping mechanisms.
Neglecting your symptoms can lead to even more disastrous outcomes for your relationships. Decide to take action to start the path to recovery.